unworthy opponents

a wonderful therapist i worked with a number of years ago gave me some excellent advice as i was dealing with someone who was a profoundly negative influence in my life. he said it was folly and so harmful to create one person or situation to be the embodiment of all that was wrong with one's life circumstance. that the power to seek a path thru that, while still acknowledging the pain involved, was a far more healthy and better outcome choice. he pointed out i had other things to "fix", than to be totally fixated on this person, allowing them to rob me of my enjoyment of life and growing my ability to make healthy choices was to give them a power far more than they deserved, and to my great detriment. he was so right, because at the cost of great pain , i emptied my life of that person and severed our bond. and now they don't even exist on the planet, and yet who i was within that....how i behaved within that...still remains with me as does the influence of time wasted paralyzed by fear and hopelessness as an anvil upon my soul.



this , an important lesson i was reminded of today as i considered this circumstance in our nation right now, and the pivotal players on the world stage right now...and our collective reaction to them. so many of us, and no one more obnoxiously so than i, have placed so much of our feelings about life and our future with the election of one or another of these candidates.



trump is this...clinton is that...the passion we feel, the frustration and anger and fear we allow to reside within us of the impact the election of one or the other of them would have on our very lives...the lives of our children and grandchildren present or yet to be...the very survival of our nation as we have known it...as our forefaters intended it to be ..or not. it's brutal stuff...it's devastating to have so much hinge on who will be our President in 2016. they are unworthy for such ultimate power.



even despots such as stalin, hitler, and the like, earthly resident evil....as we saw in them...see now in all radical hateful behavior... ....were not so influential in an of themselves, as were the power they harnessed through their followers and the banner carries of their philosophy and their will.

my therapist was so right....it is folly to attribute to, and ransom our future to, the fear of what might be by the election of one or another individual. will they have influence....?


yes. will their impact possibly be substantial?..yes. but what we forget it that either one of them could drop off the face of the earth tomorrow, and we are still who and what we have been, are, and are yet to be, as an individual and as a nation. we still have other things within our lives for which to rejoice and also to "fix" within this journey. as an old song by kenny loggins states..."you make the choice in how it goes"...and we do.



no matter who is elected president , it is likely the world will not change so much that you will no longer recognize our nation..life as we know it will be relatively unchanged. our constitution will not be completely dismantled, our choices will not feel instantly limited, our legal weapons will not be immediately confiscated, and hopefully families will not be ripped apart by immediate inhumane, deportations...and hearing "may the odds be ever in your favor" is likely not eminent. judges will not reign with decisions unconstrained. I'm not indulging in naivety...it just isn't the complete belly flop into entropy that our mass hysteria has perpetrated.



most of us all still each have a conscience....we can stem any destructive tide. we will still each house our passions and govern what is sacrosanct to us. we still will have our families...our memories and experiences with love and those we love now in our lives. God will still be in His Heaven.....( to me, at least...this is the most important aspect of all)



the true gifts of our lives and our country are not embodied in one or the other of these candidates. only our fear, and the suspicion and discord and pure paranoia it can breed...will impede us from a happy fulfilling future no matter who wins this election this time. it is not a good choice, to give the power of the content and context of our lives, to either candidate. they are not worthy. no single person is. we have other matters which to attend in our lives...other things to "fix"....to address as part of our unique personal set of lessons....and we do have a choice...of how it goes.



the best parts of us...can triumph no matter who or what. the true imperative, is that we cannot ever give that power away. <3